It’s three a.m. and all I want to do is sleep. I told myself, tonight will be different. Tonight I will not lie awake until the wee hours of the morning distracting myself until I finally, eventually, exhaust my mind and spirit enough to drift into a weary slumber, tears paving painful trails down my cheeks. Tonight I will be okay.
I was wrong, of course. I can’t shake thoughts of you, no matter how desperately I will myself to do so. It doesn’t matter how many times I remind myself that you’re sleeping peacefully wherever you are, undisturbed by any worries or sadness about losing me. You’re fine, and I’m not, and I cannot force myself to feel differently. Wanting to be okay does not make it so.
I hate myself for hurting, hate myself for caring. Missing you fills the background of every moment, despite my best attempts to shut you out. When I end my day and close my eyes, my defenses collapse and thoughts of you flood into my psyche. It’s too much to bear, so I exhaust all the options. I do everything I can think of to get to sleep, and nothing works. Sometimes hours pass before I toss my blankets aside with utter frustration and search for some new method of numbing the pain.
Now it’s four a.m. and I’m contemplating simply staying up the entire night. Why not, at this point? Once I do fall asleep I won’t want to wake again. After all, a dead slumber is my only respite from missing you horribly, and sometimes even then images of you creep into my dreams. The worst of all is waking up from a lovely reverie in which we are exquisitely happy, only to realize that it’s an illusion. I lie there like a dead weight, wishing the world would let me wither away.
This is why I’ve decided I’m done with love, for good this time. It’s too much, this weight that I bear, every new heartbreak that I carry along with me crushing my spirit a bit more. It isn’t worth it. I’d rather live a thousand lifetimes with my walls securely guarding me than go through even one more exhausting disappointment.
I’m done. Once I finally let go of you, the one who I thought was a true match for me, the one who I thought would stay … I won’t do this again. I’ve accepted that finding true love is not in the cards for me, no matter how desperately I yearn for it. Neither of my parents ever captured it and it seems that neither will I, and maybe I won’t be able to stand that. I don’t know. Maybe I’ll finally exit this earth that’s never felt like home to me in the first place. The last little bit of hope I had is unequivocally smashed into oblivion.
The idea of sleeping, never to wake, never to feel another moment of despair, comforts me.
Let me rest.
Great post 🙂